Brandler J

Information may not be reliable

but most importantly, regardless, of the type of the problem, the degree of the problem, the duration of the problem

Change is always possible-- it will require some different ways of looking at problems, some different ways of handling problems, as well as noticing when change actually occurs.
Couples inevitably get stuck in many patterns. They continue to do the same things over and over. They even know that they're stuck, but feel unable to change. When they begin to talk about the problems, they also begin to recognize the patterns. This gets them closer to change. The key to change is remembering that change is possible.

People get confused all the time about change. They feel they must be motivated to change. Therapists even accuse people of not being motivated, not being ready, even not being able to change. Motivation is not all or none. Sometimes people are 51%-49% in favor of change. That is change. As a therapist, the goal is to help the person increase the percentage of themselves that wants change and decrease the side that does not want change. I look at 1 or 2 % change as being the ideal goal for initial change since small changes leads to more small changes.

Feel free to browse the web site to find interesting articles, self assessments, links, and my blog. If you are a new client and are starting the change process, go the "new client link" and download the initial paperwork. If at any point you have questions, do not hesitate to contact me. Remember change is possible.